The issue of backstabbing...my reply to a reply on my last post

The issue of backstabbing...and accusing her no reason...

As it has always been, is that I have been accused of these 2 charges.

Need I remind a friend of mine that she has nothing to gain by playing this issue with me. She may be wiser, more experienced in handling society matters than I am, she has to kindly understand that I have refrained myself from disrupting any friendly working atmosphere there exists among us all.

To the rest of you who are reading this, this friend of mine is thinking that I am running for the next committee. And of course she thinks that I have an unassailable position, and now she wants to spill out my mistakes. She may be good, academically wise, brain wise, and whatever good points she has mentioned, but she has committed a mistake which I am not happy with.

But allow me to clarify some issues:

- First of all, I have not decided about what to do next semester. So her assumption that I will be running for something higher in my CCA now is unfounded. After all, I have not said that I am going to.

- In her point that I have acted as nothing has happened, my response to her is: I separate work from personal matters. So if she wants to carry this on, let it be. Because I know what needs to be sorted out at what level.

- Of course I am still inexperienced in these things, so if she wants to take this to me, I may not win, I admit. But I will not let anyone destroy my name.

- And if she thinks that I will renounce my friendship because of this matter, then I think I may have wasted one year knowing her as a friend. If she wants to disrupt my personal life, and if I know that happens, I will just be disappointed. She, as my senior, and at a higher position here, should be mature enought to understand that.

My friendship with my boss is what made me join the committee in the first place. Brotherhood? I beg to differ. Obviously she has not made an attempt to understand what I have been doing behind the scenes. Not that I can blame her for that. We each have 2 eyes, 2 ears, 1 nose, 1 mouth, and we have so many things to sort out ourselves.

And of course, this space is mine.

Therefore, this will be my reply to her post on her blog that I will not reveal to respect her privacy, not like her who has chosen to reveal mine.

Not that I have any dark conscience. To the contrary, I have been doing my stuff week in and week out, and I do not need to tell the whole world what I am doing to glorify myself.

But I am not going to change my principles just because of this incident.

Life is not easy...and we all make mistakes. The key issue is to learn. And not to make any assumptions.

Have I made any? I will not say anything about this, since someone else can always argue that I have made some assumptions somewhere.

At the end of the day, I still hail my Rag spirit in helping me tide this issue. Saying which I must apologise to all raggers who have gone for Arts Camp since I did not make it. It's for things like this which now warrant my attention.

And to her final charge that she thinks that I am not well enough to play but to do something else...I have not been well, but not ill enough to ignore my raggers whom I have neglected for these 2 weeks while busy with SMUN...carrying newspapers is less exerting that playing a game. I have divided my time such that I have to settle for both socety matters and rag equally.

As for the two parties that I mentioned in the last post, I honestly tell the truth when I say that it's always nice to have you both as my truly close friends. I appreciate that. But in my opinion we have a fundamental difference in working styles that I am afraid we can never reconcile. So therefore since I may not be seeing you both that often again in the months to come, I sincerely wish the best to you both in your endeavours, everything else in life.

This is my one and only official reply, and I want to say this again:

My displeasure is over Work, never Personal. No personal damage intended.